Pick the Marriage Lock
Do you use your strengths in your marriage?
Marriage is like a combination lock; your job is to find the right numbers, in the right order, so you can unlock your love potential.
Famous management consultant Peter Dru
cker once said that “most Americans don’t know their own strengths. When you ask them, they look at you with a blank stare.” Drucker was dead on.
When it comes to understanding our strengths, most of us are in the dark. Yet the fastest way to marriage success is discovering and applying our strengths. How then, can you focus on your strengths if you don’t know what those strengths are?
The short answer is: you can’t.
Through the Strengths Finder 2.0, I can help you and your spouse discover your top 5 strengths.
For example if your spouse is a LEARNER, then sign her up for yoga or piano lessons or a class at the local college. Take her to a book store or a movie or the opera–any place she can learn new ideas and activities. For learners, life is one long deliberate journey from ignorance to competence. Understand this much about her and you’ve just connected in a meaningful way that you both never thought possible.
If one of her strengths is HARMONY, be on the lookout for areas of agreement. Find common ground. Steer clear of debates and you’ll find your own life in perfect harmony–lickety split.
If your husband has the ACTIVATOR strength, utilize it to help you make improvements around the house. Activators can transform ideas into immediate action.
Maybe your husband has WOO (Winning Others Over). This strength can bring fun, energy, and more socialization to your relationship. People with this strength naturally use humor to ease the conflict with their teenagers, for example.
How do you jump over weaknesses and flow into your strengths?
You need a coach to teach you how. And now you have one! Get Your Strength Finder 2.0 Book Now + your complimentary Discovery Coaching Session (Value $120) for $19.95.
Put the odds in your favor!
Coaching points:
- Do you focus more on your spouse’s strengths or weaknesses?
- What strengths do you appreciate in your spouse?
Brent O’Bannon creates momentum for outrageous success. He is known as America’s Momentum Coach for individuals, couples in business, and companies. For more information go to www.brentobannon.com and www.marriedtoyourboss.com.
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